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CROSSWORD SETTER: Joe Krozel
THEME: A Spell Singing... If you're doing the puzzle online, three clues in the puzzle are in two parts, with the second part referring to words spelled out individually in following lines. And each of those answers is a word that is spelled out in a popular song. If you're doing a print version of the puzzle then the same principle applies, but the clue numbering is a lot more straightforward:
20. RESPONSE TO A POLITE REFUSAL / (NEXT LINE) IT'S SPELLED OUT IN A TAMMY WYNETTE HIT : I INSIST
D-I-V-O-R-C-E
31. What a walk in the ballpark will get you / (next line) IT'S SPELLED OUT IN AN ARETHA FRANKLIN HIT : ONE BASE
R-E-S-P-E-C-T
42. Young partner / (next line) IT'S SPELLED OUT IN A TRAVIS TRITT HIT : ERNST
T-R-O-U-B-L-ECOMPLETION TIME: 26m 43s
ANSWERS I MISSED: 0
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TODAY'S WIKI-EST, AMAZONIAN GOOGLIES
8. AFGHAN POWER : TALIBAN
"Taliban" is a Pashto word meaning "students". The Taliban is a relatively young organization, only formed in 1991. It was started by Mullah Omar in his hometown of Kandahar in the south of Afghanistan.
17. JAZZ TRUMPETER SANDOVAL AND OTHERS : ARTUROS
Arturo Sandoval is a jazz trumpeter, pianist and composer from Cuba. Sandoval left Cuba to tour with Dizzy Gillespie in the eighties and, while in Spain, defected to the US. He now lives in California. There was a TV movie made in 2000 that tells Sandoval's life story, with Andy Garcia playing the lead.
18. PETER AND ANNETTE OF FILM : OTOOLES
Irish actor Peter O'Toole got his big break in movies when he played the title role in the 1962 epic film "Laurence of Arabia". But my favorite of his movies is much lighter fare, "How to Steal a Million" in which he stars opposite Audrey Hepburn.
Annette O'Toole is the actress who plays Clark Kent's mother on the TV show "Smallville".
19. 1960S TEACHING FOCUS : NEW MATH
"New Math" was a novel method of teaching mathematics that became popular with the powers that be (not so much with students and teachers!) in the sixties. Central to New Math was set theory. The impetus for introducing the new methodology was the Space Race, as there was fear in the US that the country was not generating enough science-oriented mathematicians to compete with Soviet engineers and physicists.
(NEXT LINE) IT'S SPELLED OUT IN A TAMMY WYNETTE HIT : D-I-V-O-R-C-E
Tammy Wynette was a country music legend, most famous for two of her hits, "Stand by Your Man" and "D-I-V-O-R-C-E", both topping the charts in 1968.
24. LOOKS FOR ONESELF, IN A WAY : EGO SURFS
We've all done it, googling our own names to see what comes up. It's called "ego surfing".
(NEXT LINE) IT'S SPELLED OUT IN AN ARETHA FRANKLIN HIT : R-E-S-P-E-C-T
"Respect" is a song by Otis Redding, and one that he recorded himself in 1965. It became a hit when Aretha Franklin made her famous cover version in 1967. Having said that, the Redding and Franklin versions do have different storylines and musical "feels".
I think Aretha Franklin, the Queen of Soul, had a tough life. She had her first son when she was 13-years-old, and her second at 15. In 2008, "Rolling Stone" magazine ranked her as number one in their list of the greatest singers of all time.
32. FIRST SATELLITE TO TRANSMIT A PHONE CALL THROUGH SPACE, 1962 : TELSTAR
Telstar 1 was a communications satellite launched by AT&T in 1962. Telstar 1 acted as a relay for the first phone calls to be sent through space, as well as the first television pictures. Telstar 1 didn't stay in service very long though. The transistors on board were fried when the US exploded a high-altitude nuclear bomb in a test later that year.
42. YOUNG PARTNER : ERNST
Ernst & Young is one of the Big Four accountancy firms, alongside Deloitte, KPMG and PricewaterhouseCoopers. Ernst & Young is headquartered in London.
(NEXT LINE) IT'S SPELLED OUT IN A TRAVIS TRITT HIT : T-R-O-U-B-L-E
Travis Tritt is a country singer from Marietta, Georgia. T-R-O-U-B-L-E was the third album he released, in 1992.
43. CONNECTICUT CITY ON THE QUINNIPIAC RIVER : MERIDEN
The city of Meriden, Connecticut is named for the English town of Meriden in the West Midlands.
54. PAUL ANKA HIT WITH A RHYMING TITLE : ESO BESO
"Eso Beso" is Spanish for "That Kiss", and was the name of a hit for Canadian-born singer Paul Anka.
Canadian-born Paul Anka's big hit was in 1957, the song titled "Diana". He was the subject of a much-lauded documentary film in 1962, called "Lonely Boy".
55. SALSA QUALITY : HOTNESS
"Salsa" is simply the Spanish for "sauce".
56. BEGINNING : GENESIS
"Genesis" is a Greek word meaning "creation".
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1. LIKE PART OF LAKE VICTORIA : UGANDAN
Uganda is a landlocked county in East Africa lying just to the west of Kenya. Uganda was ruled by the British as a protectorate from 1894 and gained independence in 1962. Uganda is very much associated with the tyrannical rule of Idi Amin in the 1970s.
Lake Victoria is the largest area lake on the continent of Africa. It was named by English explorer John Hanning Speke in honor of Queen Victoria of the UK. Speke was the first European to set eyes on the lake.
4. "DEUM
A "Te Deum" is a hymn of praise sung to God during a liturgy. "Te deum" translates from Latin as "You, God".
5. NI~nA OR PINTA : CARAVEL
A caravel was a Portuguese ship that was small and very maneuverable. Caravels had triangular lateen-rigged sails which allowed them to sail quite close to the wind. Caravels were indeed quite small, only accommodating a crew of twenty or so sailors.
As we all know, Christopher Columbus used three ships in his first voyage across the Atlantic: the Santa Maria, the Ni~na and the Pinta. The Pinta was the fastest of the three, and it was from the Pinta that the New World was first spotted, by a sailor on lookout called Rodrigo de Triana. Pinta was a nickname (as was Ni~na), meaning "the painted one". The Pinta's real name has been lost in mists of time.
The ship we know as the Ni~na was actually the nickname of a ship actually called the Santa Clara. The nickname "Ni~na" probably came from the name of her owner, Juan Ni~na of Moguer.
7. DO SOME FARRIER'S WORK ON : RESHOE
Our word "farrier", a blacksmith, comes to us via French from the Latin "ferrarius" meaning "of iron". That makes sense...
8. CLUB NOT SEEN MUCH NOWADAYS : TWO IRON
Apparently the 2 iron has been dropped from a golfer's arsenal in favour of an extra wedge.
11. MIDORI AND LANCE : ITOS
Midori Ito is a Japanese figure skater. She was the first woman to land a triple/triple jump and a triple axel in competition. In fact, she landed her first triple jump in training, when she was only 8 years old...
Judge Lance Ito came in for a lot of criticism for his handling of the O.J. Simpson murder trial. The lead prosecutor in that trial was Marcia Clark, you might recall. I read her book "Without a Doubt" a few years ago, and she pointed out one trait of Judge Ito that I think is quite telling. Ito would almost always refer to the prosecutor as "Marcia", while addressing the men on both sides of the case as "Mister".
13. "STRAW POLL : AMES
The city of Ames Iowa is famous for holding the Ames Straw Poll in advance of most presidential elections. The poll in question is used to gauge the level of support for two or more Republican candidates, although non-Republicans are allowed to cast a vote. To vote one has to be an Iowa resident and one must buy a ticket to the fundraising dinner at which the vote is taken. The event gets a lot of coverage, so it boosts the local economy as journalists hit the town. It is a very successful fundraiser for the Republican Party in Iowa as well, but the usefulness of the straw poll in predicting the eventual winner of the nomination is less clear. There have been five straw polls since 1979, and just 2 out of 5 times the poll winner went on to capture the party's nomination.
27. HOT WHEELS PRODUCT : RACER
The Hot Wheels brand of toy car was introduced by Mattel in 1968.
28. SMALL PAVING STONES : SETTS
A sett is a small rectangular paving stone with a rounded top used to make a road surface. It's like a cobblestone, I think...
30. MILITARY TRANSPORTS: ABBR. : LSTS
LST stands for Landing Ship, Tank. LSTs were the large vessels used mainly in WWII that had doors at either ends through which tanks and other vehicles could roll off and onto beaches. The design concept persists to this day in the huge fleet of commercial roll-on/roll-off car ferries, all inspired by the LST.
34. MR. ELLINGTON, IN A 1977 SONG : SIR DUKE
"Sir Duke" is a song written and recorded by Stevie Wonder, released as a single in 1977. The song is a tribute to Duke Ellington, who passed away in 1974.
37. ASIAN LAND WHERE FRENCH IS WIDELY SPOKEN : LEBANON
Beirut is the capital city of Lebanon. After WWI, Lebanon was placed under administrative control of the French and Beirut flourished as a financial center in the Middle East and a major world tourist destination. The city was devastated in the Lebanese Civil War that raged from 1975 to 1990, but reconstruction has restored the city to much of its former glory, making it a major cultural center once again.
39. FIRE STARTER? : ST ELMOS
St. Elmo is the patron saint of sailors. He lends his name to the electrostatic weather phenomenon (often seen at sea) known as St. Elmo's fire. The "fire" is actually a plasma discharge caused by air ionizing at the end of a pointed object (like the mast of a ship), often observed during electrical storms.
41. NOG FLAVORER : NUTMEG
The fruit of the nutmeg tree yields two very different spices. What we call "nutmeg" comes from the seed of the tree. "Mace" is the dried covering of the seed.
It's not really clear where the term nog comes from although it might derive from the word "noggin", which was originally a small wooden cup long associated with alcoholic drinks.
46. NANTES SEASONS : ETES
One might spend the summer ('et'e) in Nantes in France.
Nantes is a beautiful city located on the delta of the Loire, Erdre and Sevre rivers. It has the well deserved nickname of "The Venice of the West". I had the privilege of visiting Nantes a couple of times on business, and I can attest that it really is a charming spot.
50. FORMER CAPITAL OF ROMANIA : IASI
Iasi is a large city located in the Moldavia region of Romania. Iasi briefly served as capital of the besieged country of Romania during WWII, from 1916 to 1918.
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For the sake of completion, here is a full listing of all the answers:
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1. Cheap wheels, perhaps : USED CAR
8. Afghan power : TALIBAN
15. Wigged out : GONE APE
16. Going-away request : WRITE ME
17. Jazz trumpeter Sandoval and others : ARTUROS
18. Peter and Annette of film : O'TOOLES
19. 1960s teaching focus : NEW MATH
20. Response to a polite refusal / (next line) It's spelled out in a Tammy Wynette hit : I INSIST
21. "goes" : AS SHE
24. Looks for oneself, in a way : EGO SURFS
29. "motel : NO-TELL
31. What a walk in the ballpark will get you / (next line) It's spelled out in an Aretha Franklin hit : ONE BASE
32. First satellite to transmit a phone call through space, 1962 : TELSTAR
36. Cold showers : SLEETS
40. Help board a plane, say : ASSIST ON
42. Young partner / (next line) It's spelled out in a Travis Tritt hit : ERNST
43. Connecticut city on the Quinnipiac River : MERIDEN
47. Hard work : TRAVAIL
51. Pull off : EXECUTE
52. It's not for big shots : MINICAM
53. Electrical device that may blow : SPEAKER
54. Paul Anka hit with a rhyming title : ESO BESO
55. Salsa quality : HOTNESS
56. Beginning : GENESIS
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1. Like part of Lake Victoria : UGANDAN
2. Not losing well : SORE
3. Interweave : ENTWIST
4. "DEUM
5. Ni~na or Pinta : CARAVEL
6. "There'"of gold..." : A POT
7. Do some farrier's work on : RESHOE
8. Club not seen much nowadays : TWO IRON
9. Class for budding painters : ART I
10. Den member : LION CUB
11. Midori and Lance : ITOS
12. Creed : BELIEFS
13. "Straw Poll : AMES
14. Get a home in order : NEST
22. A bit, informally : SORTA
23. Gown go-with : HEELS
25. Enter the draft, maybe : GO PRO
26. Matches : SEES
27. Hot Wheels product : RACER
28. Small paving stones : SETTS
30. Military transports: Abbr. : LSTS
33. It runs by the White House : E STREET
34. Mr. Ellington, in a 1977 song : SIR DUKE
35. Sorry bunch? : ATONERS
37. Asian land where French is widely spoken : LEBANON
38. Makes a 43-Down of : ENLACES
39. Fire starter? : ST ELMO'S
41. Nog flavorer : NUTMEG
43. Netting : MESH
44. Big show : EXPO
45. Confident cry : I CAN
46. Nantes seasons : ETES
48. " (court cry) : RISE
49. General feeling : VIBE
50. Former capital of Romania : IASI
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One of the upper limit excessive NLP techniques is the Set of buildings Talk about, a manage of the sequence and slope of imagined trial that permit the body to response as if present-day is quick-thinking danger. It has been a sample of my psychotherapy/coaching practice for 30 existence.
And I seize seen it fail! Let me give you an example: I was in use with a young man who was about to be married in a few life and was scared out of your wits of goodhearted a sermon in forefront of the families and friends who were to perform. Persuasively, present-day was no quick-thinking or forthcoming chance to his safety. Every person who was to perform cared about him. No matter how abundant times I used the technique with him, the level of fear stayed the especially. Such as went wrong?
I had a few suspicions: was this marriage the best condition for him, was present-day a self-image issue, or a piety problem? I cautiously circled inhabit questions, but it was clear-headed that at this late date he was not open to exploring these issues.
Refined the existence I seize speculative to search for modern information for instance anyone comes to me to get over a fixation I look for answers to questions such as:
* Is this the only "fixation" or are present-day clusters of them?
* Did this fear seize a flicker someone or has is been a life-long issue?
* Such as submodalities (metaphors, sounds, or feelings) work the fear strategy?
* Is present-day a stanch motivation for the person to timetabled the fear?
* Is the fear a cut off of a larger issue, such as a limiting self-concept?
Such as I speculative has made a enormous difference in the level of success I seize had in allowance people. An carefree protection in point happened a minute ago.
A babe, long-time friend was a minute ago visiting from the mid-west. As I bunch us up into the foothills I noticed she fidgeted and occasionally gasped as we came to a twist and turn that had a drop-off. I've been told I am a good driver so I suspected she had acrophobia. Time was we encountered 12-foot high bridges that led us to the fib enclosures at Cheyenne Heap Zoo, she clearly panicked. Straight-talking though she loved natural world and required to get nearer, she resisted the ramps. She next admitted that she had been dreadful of heights as long as she possibly will do faster.
I obtainable to do a fixation cure with her but she shook her have an advantage. "It won't work with me," she thought, so I backed off. (Evoke, we without fail need an "bribe" to stick your nose in.)
The after that day I open that the Wildlife Reserve we studied to make certain was on 720 acres and the only way to see the natural world was to amble a mile-long, 22-foot high skywalk. I showed her the website and optional we go without the proceed. "No, I seize to see the natural world." Now she was motivated!
I asked her to tell me more about the acrophobia. Her fear wasn't so drastically about getting too close to the piece, but of the supporting structures shortcoming. It moreover became clear-headed that she was hyper-vigilant about abundant situations - being a passenger in innovative driver's car, flying in airplanes - at all that involved depending on others for her safety. I guessed, from what I knew of her early life, that the larger issue stemmed from the fact that she clearly couldn't rely on her parents to impart a safe, a variety of area for instance she was growing up. I asked about her strategy for deciding whether or not to possibility at all recent and she thought, "It has to be clothed in my control." So I knew I had to impart a stanch clue of her future-self being put on alert, in control, and safe.
I possibly will moreover hear a strong hearing cut off in tribute to her fear: "I can't do this; I am a recklessness." We would need a verbal wallop.
As I had naked the larger degree of the fixation, I proceeded with the banner fixation cure which involves making a double dissociated, black and gray skin of her being on a high skywalk and persistent to the crushed securely, next having her step into the skin at the unmodified rage and repairs it formerly in shade. We did this guaranteed times until her go up to no longer got free and her park no longer lurched. Subsequently I optional she watch a new skin of her future-self walking to a high place and being put on alert and safe. We imagined her work this in guaranteed contexts and moreover had her say to herself: "I displease, I do my best; I am put on alert and safe." As I saw her facade and body displease, I felt that the pass was expected her criteria for control, her hearing supporting statements, and her ability to be unwavering, we were departing to test it.
The observation day we visited the Reserve. The difference was great. She was baffled and fortunate for instance she walked the mile long skywalk out and back with calm down.^A Dowry were two places that were a bit horrifying - for instance the skywalk went over a track and for instance 1/2 of it was hindered for running making the 4-foot-wide skywalk only 2 feet wide. When she was very hearing, I optional we sing as we walked back over the especially region as we returned to the foyer. And it worked! She was fine.
As we toasted her success that day's end with a view of wine, she gloated. "Now that I cotton on I can timetabled that, I think I can do anything!" Comparatively a powerful change.
Too recurrently fixation cures are during without exploring the larger degree of a fear's have an effect on and context. If it doesn't work, look for the severe submodality (it's not without fail metaphors), the stirring criteria for changing it, the degree of the fear (is it about capabilities or identity?), and the have an effect on of making the change on the person's safety and self-image.
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